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What constitutes good verbal communication?

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Good communication, I have come to realize, is first having a thought you want to convey. It needs us to know exactly what we are trying to convey… not vague, half-formed, deluded thoughts, feelings and emotions. Good communication is using clear, precise, unambiguous words and voice and tone and language to convey precisely what your thought and feeling and emotion was.

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It is not just the how, but the what and the why. It is not just form, but function as well.

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I realized I don’t have good communication skills – by this understanding of what good communication is. So what do I struggle with exactly?

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  1. I struggle with clear thinking. Very often, I start saying something and realize that I have not thought through completely, and the message I convey isn’t what I want to convey.
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  2. Deep, clear, un-deluded thinking.
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  3. I struggle with using precise words. I have a good vocabulary, good grammar. But I lack the skill to use that good vocabulary and good grammar to choose the right word among many words.
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  4. I struggle to convey what I feel, think, know. A part of this is the lack of full thinking. Another part of this is a rushed manner in thinking and speaking
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  5. I don’t use voice, tones, inflection to help me.
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So what can I do to solve these issues?

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  1. Self awareness is the first step. If I was not working on self awareness, I wouldn’t have even realized that I had a problem with communication.
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  2. The second step is to try to slow everything down to a pace where I am slightly uncomfortable with the slowness. This is required to combat my tendency to rush. I realize that my problems manifest more in verbal communication than written – because written is slower and I am forced to slow down..
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  3. The third step is to review. I have issues reviewing anything. I get bored, and then distracted and then I give up the review and move on to the next shiny new thing.  A practice for this is to learn to stay with the discomfort, the boredom, the urge to move on, but not give in to it. I suspect this is going to be a lifetime practice.
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  4. Journaling and writing helps with all of the above
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